When we’re young, it seems our list of friends is unlimited. We had friends by virtue of geography; they lived on our street or in our neighborhood, or being in the same homeroom. As we grow older, those friends are a memory. Sometimes, we manage to hold on to one out of the bunch, but for the most part, we don’t even see them anymore. Once out of high school, we begin our lives as adults and start to choose the path that seems right for us. Some of us will go to college, some will stay behind to enjoy the comfort and identification of the hometown. It’s when our lives get more complicated that friendships we’ve had over the years simply fade away.
Our lives start to evolve to where we begin to settle in to a paradigm, which for the majority of us could be a family, a job, kids, the 3 bedroom, 2 bath house, two incomes, and no time to explore the wonders of the world around us. At this time, I guarantee your list of those half dozen friends is now completely different. The important thing is, it is at this time in your life that you should have that “A HA” moment and do an inventory of who you choose to spend your time with.
Personally, I experienced the estrangement of a friend of 45 years due to a few things that I never thought in a million years would become an issue for us. I was always liberal, her conservative. As we got older, she became judgmental, hypocritical, and self-absorbed. I lost another close friend due to her announcing she was an atheist. One by one they all fell by the wayside until I was left with two close friends; and that was fine by me. My two remaining friends didn’t necessarily agree with everything I said, and we didn’t always see eye-to-eye, but the most important thing was, they were good people that loved me unconditionally.
What happens if we chose individuals to spend our time with that are nothing like ourselves. They dress differently. They talk differently. It’s kind of exciting at first, but then we soon start to realize that we’re spending our free time with people that are affecting our outlook on life. Soon, their depression becomes your depression. Their feelings and thoughts begin to rub off on you and before you know it, you are gone and someone else has stepped in your place. You have lost yourself by being around this other person that is damaging your soul.
What is going to happen to us if we don’t get away from these “friends?”